I Realized I Have a Tendency to Minimize It: The weight of being the only Black man at work.
I have a tendency to minimize certain things. Maybe they did not mean it that way. Maybe I misunderstood. Maybe it is just someone’s personality. Maybe I should let it go. Giving people the benefit of the doubt can be a good thing. But I am beginning to ask myself a harder question: How often do I give someone else the benefit of the doubt by dismissing my own experience? I have been experiencing some of the pressures associated with being the only Black man in a workplace. Reading about what some call the “representation tax” gave me language for something I have had a tendency to explain away. I am writing this to explain something I am still learning to acknowledge in myself. I cannot speak for every Black man, and I cannot know every colleague’s intentions. What I can describe is how certain interactions land with me, the questions I carry afterward, and the energy it takes to keep explaining those feelings away. My hope is that sharing this creates a little more unde...