When Distraction Becomes a Debate Strategy: Red Herrings, Whataboutism, and the Art of Avoiding the Point
There are important conversations happening around us every day. Social issues. Education. Leadership. Race. Politics. Workplace culture. Economics. Community. We cannot, and probably should not, ignore all of them. That doesn't mean we need to be ten toes down on every issue that crosses our screen. Sometimes listening is more valuable than speaking. Sometimes we don't know enough to have an informed opinion. But meaningful progress requires meaningful discussion. And meaningful discussion becomes nearly impossible when someone isn't actually interested in discussing the issue at hand. I encountered this recently during what I thought was a productive online conversation. Different perspectives were being shared, people disagreed, and that was perfectly fine. Then someone repeatedly tried to steer the conversation somewhere else. Not because the new question helped us examine the original issue more deeply. It didn't. It distracted from it, and there is ...